Showing posts from March, 2018


As of this January I have been in the Inner-City Mission for one year. Anniversaries are a great opportunity to review the past year and plan for the next. Over the past year I have often been surprised, frustrated, inspired and challenged.

Having been a sponsor to many addicts in recovery over the past 25 years I have learned a great deal about what it means to be of help and what it means to cause harm through attempts to be 'helpful'. I have made many mistakes along the way through well meaning actions, intended to help but misguided by a lack of understanding what the true nature of help is. Some of my helpful actions have caused more harm than good to the person I desired to help.

I have come to realize that the actions that caused harm were actions that were based in me attempting to solve someone else's problem. Often the negative results of my efforts to help came when I was taking responsibility that was not mine for another persons actions, trying to solve a pro…